“One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today.” — Dale Carnegie
We have a tendency as a culture to procrastinate. I have a master’s degree in it. And yet we all look up so often and complain that we spent too little time with the person who’s funeral we are attending, or that we can’t believe the politician made the decision they did who got elected in the previous election we didn’t vote in, or that we can’t believe how fast our children grew up while we were off working 10-12 hour days or away from home.
Our culture tells us to chase after money or fortune or fame. To chase after good times or easy living. And yet the vast majority of people whom I have observed or spoken to near the end of their life never decry having spent less time at these things. No, what they miss or regret, what they inevitably say they value most … their faith, their spouse, their children and their family. They talk about the people they helped or the people who helped them in a time of need. So why do we focus on, and chase after things which so obviously do not matter to people at the end of their life, all the while ignoring living our life as it fly’s by?
There are a number of reasons, excuses, we make, some of them even legitimate in specific cases of hardship. The reason that reverberates with truth and that most people will admit in their heart if not their mind or with their voice is a dire disordering of priorities. We say that our relationship with God is our number one priority. How much time do we spend each day with Him? We say that our spouse is the most important human relationship we have on earth. How much time and effort do we put into our marriage each day? We say honesty and integrity are keystone traits of our life. How many politicians or athletes who knowingly lie or cheat or steal do we continue to elect or idolize?
In order to get our country back on the right track we must first get our families and communities back on the right track. For if we cannot control and manage our own households, how in the world can we manage our country or even more the Church? Think about what you want your priorities to be. Really be. Write it down and then write down your actions, not only what you do, but how you feel you do. Be honest and see if your actions match up with your priorities. If they do, great! If they don’t, how can you make incremental, but noticeable, changes to your lifestyle so that when your life is all said and done, you don’t feel like you have missed living chasing a fantasy. – JT Cope IV